Many years ago a special lady came into my life, and we shared what we hoped would be a lifetime friendship. We had both recently moved to Hawaii, thousands of miles from family and familiar things, determined to lift ourselves out of the rubble of broken marriages. Inseparable, we enjoyed the treasures of our new tropical home and explored the possibilities for our life journeys.
Then one day she stopped being my friend. I was shattered and frightened. I spent hours scouring my memory trying to discover what I might have said or done that made her slam and lock the door.
A friend from the mainland sent me a greeting card that contained a poem and a note: “Hope this helps you move on. Your journey awaits you.” I read the poem many times and was finally able to soften my grief with joy in the memory of what the two of us had shared.
Looking back over my decades, I can now see the gifts bestowed on me by my many friends and recognize the role they played in the path I’ve traveled. Too bad I didn’t memorize that poem all those many years ago. I could have spared myself one helluva lot of tears and growing pains.
There’s an old Buddhist saying: “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I thank all the beautiful teacher friends who came into my life when I was ready.
Friends for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.